Hey Tiger! I asked a few male creatures what they would like to read about and this topic jumped up first. It's a goodie, I must say! Its enlightening to know there's still a few genuine fella's out there who actually pick their partners based on more than just the three common B's.
I would say find a girl with a horrible tattoo and marry her. She knows how to make bad decisions and stick with them. Just kidding. Obviously there is no such thing as the ideal well rounded partner, we're all flawed humans striving to perfect our existence in every and any way we can. But if you're lucky enough to find someone who's willing to better herself for the greater good, hang in there. Its not easy to change one's true, sinful nature and a willing heart should be celebrated for its bravery.
If she takes good care of herself physically she will take good care of you. Self respect is a attribute you definitely want your girl to have. I'm not saying don't settle for anything less than one of Charlie's Angel's, remember there is a huge difference between attention seeking Sally and the girl next door. Sally will spend all her time and energy on luring men in with her appearance - but when she opens her mouth she's got nothing but a rehearsed four word vocabulary. The girl next door takes her appearance seriously, but she's more focused on building up her character, unlike Sally - who's only ambition in life is to be the next Kim Kardashian.
If she is lose with her body she's going to be lose with her heart. Okay boys, lets be honest real quick. Genetically you aren't wired to care about this fact too much, but if you're on the look out for someone to raise your children with then you gotta listen up. Find someone who treasures both her heart and her body. Easy access in means easy access out, you want a rich and meaningful relationship - not just some temporary sex retreat where two of a woman's most valuable possessions is shared by many others. There is absolutely nothing sacred about that. Would you spend loads of money buying a car that's been used and abused by others because the owner didn't mind letting it go for a joy ride every now and again for some self gratification? Yeah. Didn't think so.
I know you want to feel like her king, but go for the woman who's world doesn't revolve around you. Take caution when a girl cant even buy a bread without your input or struggles to breath if you're not in a two meter vicinity. We weren't created to become one in every way humanly possible. Unhealthy codependency is a real thing, find yourself a lady who is emotionally independent and mature enough to know that you are in her life to make it better, not to become it. There should be a healthy balance, where you feel prioritized but also have your own space to breath in.
If she challenges you - she's a keeper, for sure! If you're into personal growth, get yourself a lady that wants to see you grow and reach your full potential in all the important areas of your life. You want someone who's supportive of the best version of you, not someone who's intimidated by it. If she challenges your way of thinking, it means she challenges her own and there will never be a dull moment. Settle for the one with a curious and wandering mind, she's forever growing and she'll make sure that you keep up with your own journey.
Make sure her moral compass is aligned with your expectations. Don't be heart broken when you face betrayal in some way, if you didn't put in the effort to get to know her true nature. There is black, white and grey people in life. The grey one's are always a huge risk, because they will find reasons to push the boundaries and then justify their selfish behavior. They will compromise on important values if it gives them some temporary sense of self satisfaction. They cant think beyond it, they are simply incapable and its not your job to raise anyone with good standards, you're a partner not a parent. This is also known as immaturity and insecurity. Be careful boys! Find yourself a loyal one.
If she speaks your love language don't let her get away. If she goes out of her way to understand and speak your love language you better count yourself lucky. We live in superficial times where people date each other for what they can gain out of the relationship, instead of putting in selfless efforts to make the other person feel loved and adored. If she loves you more than she loves herself, marry her dude - or someone else will.
Strong and independent, but vulnerable when it matters. I'm still struggling to find my balance between being strong and soft all at once but I do try! No man likes it when a woman tries to take his place, and rightfully so we should know where to draw the line and let the man take the lead. Its okay to not be okay all the time, I would say settle for someone who's mature enough to know when she needs to put on her big girl pants and when its okay to admit she needs your shoulder. As long as no one gets drained in the process you're both good to go.
Love versus money. This can be a real tough one. Remember attention seeking Sally? I am willing to bet on her willingness to chase money instead of love. Be sure to trust your heart with the one that stays through the toughest of times, the girl that loves you for all you are, not all you have. If the money falls away, only love remains - if its not shallow.
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